First, I wouldn’t change a thing if it meant marrying a different woman, or not having my two children or my “adopted daughter.” But other than that, what would I do over?
1. I would never move away from “home.” I had a gazillion relatives. Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, in-laws. All whom I loved and whom I miss. Kids, don’t move away from home. My kids were raised in a home where their nearest relative lived 12 hours away. IF I had a “do-over” I would live near home.
2. I’d find some line of work that I LOVE to do, instead of settling for something that pays the bills. I always say that there lawyering beats working for a living. But I really hate it. If I had it all to do over again, I’d find something that I really enjoyed doing, no matter what the salary. The man who does what he loves for a living never has to work a day in his life.
3. I’d spend less time at the office and more time with my children and wife. When my kids were young, I spent what I thought was an enormous time with them. Then they got older, and had different interests, and I spent more time at work. Come to find out, they don’t remember much of the times that I spent with them, and they distinctly remember the times that I was absent from the family while at work.
4. I would be more kind, to friends, family, acquaintances, and people that I came in contact with. When I’m having problems sleeping, and while I’m thinking about my life, I don’t regret the times that I was nice to people. I regret the times when I was rude.
5. I would express myself to those I love. I’d tell my wife and children, and my extended family, how much I love them. I’d tell them how proud I am of them.
6. I’d keep my friends from high school. I left home when I was 18 and never looked back. Almost all of the best friends that I made were made in high school. I let them all slip away. Keep the old friends. Maybe, maybe, you will make new friends.
7. I’d keep being a Detroit Lions fan and I’d keep being a Detroit Tigers fan. I gave up being a Tigers fan when the players struck in 1990 whenever. I lost interest in the Lions after living away from home for so many years. Nothing gets one’s blood pumping as being a sports fan. Moving around the country, developing wimpy passion for the nearest sports team (for now) is not the same. When I was a kid, I’d spend my time with my ear up to the transistor radio listening to the Lions play-by-play. I’d never even think of not having the Tigers on the radio. Life has more pizzaz when you are the fan of a sports team.
you guyz care to share YOUR ideas?